Girls behind bars dating
Most of us struggle to identify with the type of woman who would actively search for a partner in prison.We read the sensational stories in the Press which tend to veer between pity and disdain.Hybristophilia is described as a condition whereby women are sexually aroused by and responsive to the men who commit heinous crimes.Often referred to as the ‘Bonnie & Clyde Syndrome.’ In this instance the Passive Hybristophile will often contact someone in prison - someone that they only know by reputation in the media.However as Cavendish observes, prisoners can benefit fiscally from these courtships; “I’ve known male inmates who have several pen pals, and they live a very comfortable life inside on the regular postal orders or cheques that get sent in.I’ve met straight young prisoners who are keen to find male ‘sugar daddies’ willing to fund their tobacco or drug habits whilst inside.”Yet it would be wrong to claim that all inmates exploit the situation and all pen pals on the outside are lonely and looking for love.They often never progress beyond the courting stage.As observed by Clinical Psychologist Dr Stuart Fischoff; “The love object is almost irrelevant at this point.
(PA)Yet even in platonic cases the lines can get blurred.Georgina Rigby was 28 and working in the field of drug misuse when an inmate contacted her.“He wasn’t a direct client, but I recalled him living on the same estate where I grew up. I think at first he genuinely wanted someone to talk to, and as the letters progressed they did become more sexual...I could tell that having a sympathetic woman to write to made him feel good, and no doubt gave him some fantasy material. "Thinking about it now, several years later, the letters allowed me to be intimate at a distance.To be my ‘best self’ without the physical and personal flaws that he'd encounter face to face.” For those who instigate and sustain a relationship with a man imprisoned for a lengthy period of time, physical contact is obviously limited.
In most cases this period can be half of the original sentence - or for life in the case of life sentenced prisoners.”In the UK prisoners can also be placed on a home detention curfew, be expected to permanently reside at a pre-approved address and need to obtain prior permission for a stay of one or more nights at a different address.